Getting married is one of the most important events in a person’s life, and it’s quite normal to want everything to go just right.
It’s not just about one day, it’s about you and your loved one committing your whole lives to one another.
Marriage is about adopting each other’s traits, values, and all importantly each other’s family.
So, the last thing you want to do is make a mess of the groom’s speech and spend the rest of your married life trying to make up for it.
Every aspect of a wedding takes careful planning and that includes the groom’s speech, so make sure you dedicate some serious time and thought into it, unless you want to be reminded of how terrible it was for the rest of your married life.
To ensure that doesn’t happen, or at least give you a slight nudge in the right direction, keep reading for a guide on how to write the perfect groom’s speech and save yourself a lot of heartache (and earache) later on.
Structuring the Groom’s Speech
The groom’s speech is the perfect opportunity to introduce yourself to your newly adopted family and for that reason alone you want to make sure you get it right. It’s also a chance for you to show off your beautiful bride and let everyone know how you two first met and the love story of how you got together.
Not everyone’s used to public speaking, and in many cases, this is the only time you’ll ever have to do it. It may seem a little daunting to begin with, but with a little preparation (and maybe alcohol) you should be able to pull it off.
Remember during the speech that it’s not just coming from you, but from your wife as well, so a good way to start it off is with the words, “My wife and I…” It will the first time you will have addressed you both as husband and wife and is a nice touch.
When preparing the groom’s speech you also want to make sure that you thank both sets of parents, the best man and bridesmaids, and anyone else that’s made a special contribution or been an extra special help on your big day.
If you want some extra brownie points pay particular attention to both mothers during the speech. If you can make the mother’s cry by being so very sweet and sincere in your speech, it will be plain sailing from here. Any presents that are to be given out to the bridesmaids or best man is usually done at this point too.
And, you may want to consider getting a dig in now with the best man before you hand the reigns over for him to embarrass you completely. During this part of the speech try to thank as many people as possible as they will appreciate the mention, particularly those have traveled far and wide to be there for your big day.
But keep it reasonable. The washing up staff and barman really don’t a thank you.
If you have any jokes or anecdotes in mind that you were hoping to tell now is a good time to throw them in. It will lighten the mood a little and get them ready for the best man’s speech, which traditionally follows the groom’s speech.
However, don’t have any jokes that are too cheesy as this could quickly sour the mood. Often it’s better to share a funny moment or two that you and your now wife experienced while dating. Once everyone’s had a little giggle, reign them back in with a special message and a toast to your new, beautiful wife.
End the speech with another thank you to everyone in general for coming together to celebrate this special day with you. Then, take a deep breath, be prepared to get made fun of wholeheartedly, and hand the floor over to your (so-called) best man.
And you can now sigh a big sigh of relief as your job in the speech department is now finished.
Groom’s Speech Example
My wife and I would like to thank you all for coming and celebrating our special day with us. We know that some of you have travelled a long way to be here, so we hope this day is as enjoyable for you as it is for us. It really wouldn’t be the same without you all present.
We’d also like to take this opportunity to toast all those that can’t be here with us today but are in our hearts and thoughts. So, ladies and gentleman, please raise your glasses to absent and lost family and friends.
A massive thanks goes to both our parents, for all the support emotionally and financially, and for all the patience you’ve displayed in getting us here and making this dream come true. And thank you, (wife’s parents) to welcoming me into your home and your family.
To our mothers, we have a little gift (hand out gifts) to show our thanks and appreciation. I would also like to thank the ushers for getting me here in one piece, when at one point it looked like that might not be the case (hand out gifts).
Next, we would like to say a big thank you to our beautiful bridesmaids.
Thanks for helping (wife) organize the hen do and for all the help you’ve given today in making this day so very special (hand out gifts).
Now, on to the main star of the show, my gorgeous, new wife. Firstly, I would like everyone to know just how very lucky I feel to be standing here today next to this incredibly beautiful woman. She is my rock and my savoir, and I could not imagine my life without her. (You may want to include a short story about how you met/got together, or a funny moment you experienced at this point).
In all seriousness, (wife), you are my soul mate and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you. So, can everyone please raise your glasses and toast my beautiful wife…Mrs…(wife).
I’ve known this man since I was knee-high to a grasshopper and can remember when….(throw in an embarrassing moment about best man before giving him the floor).
A lot of what he says is completely false, but please feel free to laugh at his anecdotes in order to humour him. It now give me great pleasure to pass you over to my best man, (best man’s name).
Top Tips for Writing a Good Groom Speech
Although the above is a great example of a groom’s speech, you will still want to personalize it and make it your own. So, the following are just a few top tips and points to remember when putting it all together.
- Plan, plan, plan. I can not stress this point enough. Yes, there may be lots of other things going on in the lead up to the wedding such as choosing the venue, meeting with the caterers, and of course, the stag do, but you need to make time to allow for planning of the groom’s speech. I don’t want to scare you, but the best groom speeches can take months of planning to get just right. At the end of the day, you only get one shot at it, so preparing in advance what you’re going to wow your guests with in your big speech is vital.
- Tell a story about the best man. Traditionally, the best man will follow you in your speech, and traditionally the best man will embarrasses the life out of you. So, why not get in there first and get something funny in about him. And maybe let everyone know to teach everything he says with a pinch of salt before handing over the floor.
- Be careful with the jokes. Everyone likes an entertaining speech, especially coming from the groom himself, but unless you’re a stand-up comedian, jokes don’t usually work. So, it’s best to stick to funny stories instead.
- Don’t forget your manners. make sure you remember to thank everyone that’s important, especially yours and the bride’s family. Make a point of mentioning both the mother and father in law in particular for extra smooth sailing.
- Share the love. It’s a wedding, so folk are going to want to know how you two crazy lovebirds got together. Make them laugh or make them cry, but most of all make them feel a part of it all.
- Short and sweet is best. There’s a few different speeches to get through, so it’s hard to keep everyone’s attention for too long. As long as you get in how beautiful your wife is and lucky you are to have her as well as a few thanks to family and friends who’ve helped, you’ll be fine. A groom’s speech that goes on for more than 10 minutes is just no good as half of it will be forgotten.
- Rehearse it. Once you’ve got it all put together you just need to start rehearsing it. Do it a few times first on your own, in front of the mirror, if it helps. You’ll start to remember parts the more you read it and the words will soon begin to flow naturally. When you’re feeling more confident, have a go at reading it in front of your best man or parents to see what they think and if they have anything to add.
- Enjoy it. The most important thing of all is to try and enjoy the moment. Just relax and don’t rush it. Your guests want to hear what you have to say, so take a deep breath and deliver it with pride because this is one of the best day’s of your life.
Not every groom opts to have a groom quote, but some choose to throw one in there. What I will say about groom quotes is that if you do choose to have one, make sure you understand it and that it means something to you. Here are a few examples to get you going if you are thinking of including one in your groom’s speech:
– To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
– You don’t marry the person you can live with… you marry the person you can’t live without.
– A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
– Faith makes all things possible. Love makes all things easy.
– When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
– Once in a lifetime you meet someone who changes everything.
Hopefully after reading this guideline to writing the perfect groom’s speech you now have a pretty good idea as to what you want to include in yours. The most important things to remember are to plan your speech well in advance of the big day and to keep calm when delivering it.
If you can nail those two things everything else will fall into place. A wedding is a day to be enjoyed for years to come and the last thing you want to do is worry about the speech. So, follow these tips and rest assured all will be ok.
And, if worse does come to worst, and you really can’t come up with anything, then you can always buy or copy a speech from the internet. But be warned, if your newly wed wife does ever find out, the marriage could be over before it began!